somewhere i have never traveled. . .: December 2005

Saturday, December 31, 2005 

Revolutions

Should auld acquaintance be forgot,
And never brought to min'?
Should auld acquaintance be forgot,
And days of o' lang syne?

And days of auld lang syne, my dear,
And days of auld lang syne.
We'll tak' a cup o' kindness yet,
And days of auld lang syne?

Robert Burns


The world turns yet again. When the clock strikes midnight tonight, the earth (the scientists tell us) will be in the same position in its orbit as it was in years' past, coming, as it were, to the end of its year-long journey; returning, yet again, for the beginning of a new one. Tonight, at midnight, our planet, it seems, meets itself again, as though face to face upon a mirror: I wonder what it would see? The same planet, no doubt, but with a billion more people? A couple of new wars here and there? Many heroes, no doubt, yet many villains also? And certainly, certainly quite a number of lunatics.

Indeed, there is something poetic (and even philosophical) about this circular celestial dance that our planet completes at the end of every year, where endings are at once beginnings, as cycles close and cycles begin again— the never ending rhythm of existence, since time immemorial and forever more, at the end of an old year, and the beginning of a new one.

The symbolism is not lost to us— earthlings that we are— and on this night most especially, when we are called to remember, and to look ahead. No wonder, then, that this first month of the year is named after the Roman god Janus, sometimes portrayed as a door (the Latin for door is, in fact, ianua), sometimes portrayed with two faces, one looking forward and the other looking back.

* * *

Sitting down now to perform my own ritual of remembering, I find that the year passed rather quickly, if not uneventfully. Not that there were no worthwhile events to remember, but that I was probably too tired to revel in them, or perhaps too emotionally drained to feel them; no doubt, the Bar Examinations sapped the life out of me, as it did with many of us. Indeed, 2005 will always be remembered as the year I graduated from law school, and the year I took the Philippine Bar: the two overarching leitmotifs which played at the background of many of this year's memories.

A quick reckoning [My 2005. . . . ]:

I found a flat near the law school, and for the first time in my life, lived away from home. I sat through my very last class day as an Atenean and took my very last examination, at both times somewhat feeling that everything was just so anti-climactic. I graduated and got my JD degree, gave a speech, and ended four years of that bitter-sweet insanity called law school. I reviewed for the Bar Examinations. I turned 26, thinking I was getting too old for thinking that I was getting too old. I reviewed some more, got paranoid, lost sleep, did my best. I finally took the Bar, somewhat insecure and somewhat confident, glad, however, that it, too, would come to an end. I went to Boracay for the first time, fell in love with the sand and the sky, and felt that life had actually begun. I ventured to La Union, on a whim, to surf with unlikely travelmates. I put periods to question marks, got hurt and felt stupid, looked into the abyss and realized that no one was staring back, and saw the rest of my life in a whole new light. I visited Cebu, Bohol and Davao with my family. I saw the Philippine Philharmonic again and watched Man of La Mancha, at last. I bought myself a new camera with my own money, and got back into photography. I tried to live a little, ex mundo: went out with friends and family, became a pseudo-alcoholic, regularly came home at four in the morning. I experienced death for the first time, and I came out of it somewhat numbed. I missed some people and said good-bye to some others. I wanted to grow-up, I felt that somehow I did.

Reading through the list again, I feel somewhat exhausted and spent, reliving once again the emotional (if not, artificial) roller-coaster of the past twelve months. Were it only the Bar Examinations, then perhaps things would have been somewhat more bearable, but quite predictably, life throws a couple of curve balls, just to remind me that I am still human (and that I should have a sense of humor). Coelho's quote, therefore, seems more apt tonight, more than ever: “Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life. Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust. Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.”

* * *

I close the door on 2005, therefore, with not only a renewed impression of hope, but also a heightened sense of expectation, knowing that, like the pattern of the past couple of months, this year will be the beginning of many new things; indeed, the first year of the rest of my life. I guess this is why beginnings are so exciting: because they are meant to somehow allow us to start with a clean slate, or, as J.B. Priestly put it, “a fresh try, one more start, with perhaps a bit of magic waiting somewhere behind the morning.”

In the spirit, therefore, of fresh tries and second chances, I now list events that I will look forward to, with the coming of 2006. Some of them, no doubt, are inevitable facticities all of us have to face; others, suntok sa buwan. But whether terms or conditions, I look forward to them nonetheless, because tonight, we are allowed to be hopeful.

1. My first day at work at my first job.
2. My first pay check.
3. The results of the 2005 Bar.
4. A happy 27th Birthday.
5. Boracay.
6. Friends, nightouts, and laughter.
7. Ever After.
* * *

In a couple of minutes, the year will come full circle. As we move from the old to the new, returning to the beginning and venturing forth again— revolutions in the stages of our lives— I send my New Year's wishes:

to kinder gods, and fiercer loves;
to brief jealousies, and even shorter griefs;
to second chances, and honest shots;
to wine, to beer, to sunsets, and coffee;
to travel, and music, and books, and food,
and kissing, and laughter;
to friends, and family;
and to everything else
that we should be grateful for this year:


FELIX ANNUS NOVUS! A Happy New Year!

Wednesday, December 28, 2005 

Finding Ever After

To be honest, I think your theory about relationships is bullshit. I believe in love, lust, sex and romance, not in a perfect equation. I want mess and chaos. I want someone to go crazy for me. I want passion and heat and sweat and madness! Valentines and cupids! I want it all. . .

Rose Morgan in The Mirror Has Two Faces


I used to feel awkward going to soirees. Coming from an all-boys high school, often the only avenue for interaction with the members of the fairer sex were organized events such as math competitions, school fairs or Saturday afternoon soirees. Being the lanky, insecure, geeky boy that I was, I would feel like a fish out of water, not quite coming to par with my other cooler classmates who wore Ferré pants, Cole Haan shoes, and La Coste shirts. Being a characteristically “A” soiree, furthermore, there would normally be double the number of boys than there would be girls; naturally, those who dared to attend would be drawn to my more normal looking classmates.

And so, after all the inane games have been played, I would often find myself drifting towards the piano, out of sight and in the corner, and I would anonymously begin the opening strains of Stephen Bishop's ubiquitous It Might Be You, or perhaps, some Broadway classic like The Promise or On My Own, or even, if I'm feeling corny, Rick Price's Heaven Knows. Sometimes— and much to my delight— some hapless girl would find her way to my music, and stand beside the piano, to listen.

“Wow, you play pala,” she'd say.

'Di naman, konti lang,” I'd reply, feigning modesty.

“Play this naman for me,” she'd say, and I would, and she would smile. Got my fix for the day.

On good days, there would even be two or three of them; some would even sit beside me on the piano seat. I'd play a medley of songs, and they would swoon at the opening chords. Looking back now, I know how delightfully sophomoric it was, and my high school classmates would never let me forget it, even up to this day.

But I guess that was me: the ballads and the ivory keys; hopeless romantic that I was, I always had this idea of sitting by the piano, and crooning to that special girl the words I could not exactly tell her straight, face to face. Like in the movies. Like in the daydreams in my head.
Kapag narito ka, gumaganda.
Kapag narito ka, lumiligaya.
Totoo bang nararamdaman ng puso ko?
Hindi ko alam, sana.
One of the songs I played often then was Could You Be My Number Two, only because I found the melody haunting enough to play on the piano. The introduction's rhythmic repetition of the three black keys in E-flat, changing bases from A-Flat to C-sharp and then to C, evoked a melancholy that, I felt, was tired yet compelling. So much did I like the song that I even told a friend that it would be one of the songs I would sing to that special girl, as I lived through that piano fantasy of mine.

Gago ka ba!” he told me. “Kantahan mo yung girl ng Could You Be My Number Two, tinganan natin kung hindi ka sampalin n'on!

For a while, I was puzzled at his reaction, but then, listening to the song again on the radio (it used to be played often enough, then) I understood what he meant. I agreed with him. Following the conclusion of Number One, who would want to be Number Two? Strike that from my girlfriend-fantasy piano playlist, I thought.

Almost eight years after high school, however, living through enough drama, heartache, complications and disappointments; hurting people I love and being hurt by them, also; witnessing enough break-ups and assisting in cases of annulment; watching broken people fall in love with other broken people, lost yet still trying; I find myself playing the song once again on the piano— playing it often, in fact— and understanding a little bit more of what the lyrics mean.

Could you be my number two
Me and number one are through
There won't be too much to do
Just smile when I feel blue.

And there's not much left of me
What you get is what you see
Is it worth the energy
I leave it up to you.

And if you got something to say to me
Don't try to play your funny games on me
I know that it's really not fair of me
But my heart's seen too much action

And every time I look at you
You'll be who I want you to
And I'll do what I can do
To make a dream or two come true

If you'll be my If you be my number two

Indeed, I understand why the song is not exactly the most perfect of songs to define a relationship, but still, what draws me to it is the fact that the emotion it captures is real. More importantly, it is human, and therefore, flawed but beautiful. I'm tired and I am broken, but I want to love you. I'll try to make it work, if you'll let me. W.H. Auden captures it beautifully in the beginning of his poem, Lullaby, where he writes:

Lay your sleeping head, my Love,
human upon my faithless arms.
* * *

I read somewhere that the problem with most people is that they try to make abstracts out of essentials. Ephemeral as they are, most people choose to create concepts of what they cannot fully grasp: like forever, or eternity, or two becoming One. The goal, then, for many has been to strive for that lofty ideal, that mental concept, and in the process, detaching themselves from what is humanly true and humanly real.

Like, for example, some people believe that for friendship to be real, it must be effortless; or that for love to be true, it must be platonic. The basic attitude here is to understand the phenomenon purely in terms of essential concepts: how it must conform to a structured idea or a preconceived notion. God forbid that such an ideal, neatly placed in clear categories and rigid boxes, be sullied by the baser experience of, say, flowers and chocolates and hormones and sex and today and this moment!

The problem with this attitude, of course, is that people choose to remain within these clear conceptual frameworks, not wanting to dirty themselves with the experience. The result sometimes is frustration, because the ideal is simply not attainable; or perhaps, even, bitterness, because not having conformed to the concept, they feel that what they have actually experienced— of falling in love, for example, or being in a friendship— was not actually the real thing.

* * *

Of course, of course, we want the ideal. We want to be Number One, playing our love songs on the pianos of our daydreams, with that special person sitting beside us with their heads on our shoulders. We strive for it. We ache for it. We pray for its coming. After all, we would not be human if we did not hope, or if we did not dream.

But I guess, in this dreaming for perfection, perhaps it is good to be mindful that, as that rather gaudy MMS message goes— one which, I think, still hits the mark— we often keep standards on who we will one day fall in love with, but at the end of the day, we know that the one for us will always be the exception to the rule.

Life seldom gives us cookies. We have to be happy with the crumbs. After all, as that song (which has been playing in my head often, of late) giddily goes; indeed—

Nothing compares to the good times
Feels like we're floating, when the rest have to climb
You made me believe in love, and not the perfect kind
A real messy beautiful twisted sunshine.

And now we're slightly weathered, we're slightly worn
Our hands grip together, eye to eye through the storm, yet
I still believe in ever after with you, yeah.
'Cause life is a pleasure with you by my side,
And there ain't no current in this river we can't ride
I still believe in ever after with you.
We're all slightly weathered, and slightly worn. Still, may we all find our twisted sunshines, and live happily, if not imperfectly, ever after.

Monday, December 26, 2005 

Love, Actually

It's the day after Christmas, and notwithstanding the dull disappointment that inevitably follows after finally getting what one has been looking forward to for a long time, I sit thankful for another quiet and blessed Christmas. While there wasn't anything special about this year's celebrations (just as there wasn't anything special in the past few Christmasses— the price, I think, of getting older), Christmas will always be Christmas for me: filled with personal traditions, friends, and family.

Waking up this morning, I felt somewhat numb at the passing of another Yultide Season. But turning on the television and laughing (and at times, teary) through Love, Actually yet again, I got up and started my day smiling, knowing that things, while not perfect, are going to be all alright.
Prime Minister: Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow Airport. General opinion's starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don't see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often it's not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it's always there— fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. When the planes hit the Twin Towers, as far as I know none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge— they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I've got a sneaky feeling you'll find that love actually is all around.
Indeed, when the heart is full, words are not necessary. . . .


Family Picture, Christmas Eve 2005


Jemboy's Christmas Message


Family Picture, Christmas Day 2005


Los Bernardos, Christmas 2005: We miss you, Lolo


* * *

Now that we are properly in the Christmas season (it lasts for 12 Days from the 25th!), let me greet you once again: ¡Feliz Navidad! Espero que los sueños de paz y amor que despiertan en la Navidad se hagan realidad en el año nuevo.

Saturday, December 24, 2005 

Love is Really Enough


Και ο λοςος σαρξ εςενετο
και εσκηνωσεν εν ημιν.
John 1:14


Leaving from Simbanggabi Mass at the Church of the Gesù at the Ateneo Campus in Loyola the other evening, I bumped into my friend’s sister who had just gotten married last December 21 in Caleruega, Tagaytay. Even amidst the mill of Christmas churchgoers rushing home to their noche buena feasts, one could sense a certain timelessness about them, a certain glow and contentment of just being in each other’s company, a certain joy of being in love at Christmastime.

The Christmas bride never looked as beautiful, I thought, as I congratulated her on her recent wedding. She cheerfully replied, “Merry Christmas!” leaning her head on the arm of her new husband. I had never seen anyone as happy, and I could feel, she knew she was home.

Finally driving home from Gesù, I caught another glimpse of them walking at the side of the road, his arm draped gently over her shoulders, her arm comfortably tucked around his waist. And beneath the strands of golden starlight that was Bellarmine field at Christmastime, they laughed; they laughed like the world did not matter; they laughed like the moment was eternally theirs. You could see it in the honesty of their faces and the innocence of their touch: they were two friends bound finally by the promise of forever.

I watched them, half envying the magic of the moment that they possessed, and realized that Christmas was not only for children; it was also for lovers.

That is why I could not help but feel a tinge of sadness while reveling in their Christmas joy, remembering yet another friend of mine who was alone this Christmastime, and what she had to tell me.

The scene of our meeting was almost quite the same, with the tinsel and the lights, and the chilly December night. Like this December bride, she too was deeply in love, and I could feel, she was comfortably at home. Married for almost three years, she was convinced that she had found her soul mate. But that evening, over coffee and gifts, I had learned that they had decided to go their separate ways.

It was a difficult choice, she said. But being apart was better than actually being a couple. The fights were getting unbearable. For a while, they tried to hold things together. But between work, and life, and making a living, there seemed to be little time for the old laughter, or the old magic, or the old friendship.

“Who knows,” I told her, “Perhaps you just need this time apart.” Certainly, there was still a chance, she said. But even if there was, it would never be the same. She was right, of course.

“But you still love him, don’t you?” I asked. And quite certainly, she replied yes. Then she smiled, a small sad smile, and whispered, more to herself than to me, “I do,” like she did, when she was married. “But you know,” she followed, pausing a moment, feeling the bitter pang in the heart, “You’ll learn that love is never enough. It isn’t enough.”

These words of hers stayed with me through this Christmas rush of tinsel and parties and gifts and music, even through the dreamy stars of Bellarmine field and its December brides. Being gone for very long in the world of reputations and appearances, lawyers and professions, reality and the greyness of growing up, I knew and somehow felt the truth of the words she spoke: people die, dreams end, love fades away. In the reality of everyday drudgery, it appears that love is never enough.

* * *

Tonight, Christendom remembers and celebrates the birth of our Lord Jesus Christ. In a hundred churches and in a hundred languages, with incense, hymns and ancient prayers, young and old alike will once again stand before the sacred altar and listen to that story of the first silent night when humanity was finally granted its Savior.

While they were there, the days of her confinement were completed, and she gave birth to her first born son, and wrapped him in swaddling clothes, and laid him in a manger, for there was no room for him in the place where travelers lodged. [Luke 2:6-7].
The simplicity of Luke’s language deceives us, for it would seem that the story of that first Christmas was a story of just another birth of just another child. Rightfully so, perhaps, for indeed, it was. But it was more; for it was not only Mary’s first born son that was born that holy night, but also the Savior of humankind; and it was not only the Savior of humankind that came on that cold wintry evening in Bethlehem over two thousand years ago, but it was God Himself.

Perhaps Fr. Horacio dela Costa, S.J. sums it best when he writes, “We were promised a Savior, but we never dreamed that God Himself would come to save us. We know that He loved us, but we never dared to think that He loved us so much as to become like us.”

Indeed, the Incarnation was a surprise that defied all reason, expectation, and belief. Imagine for a moment, the God of all that is seen and unseen, existent from the beginning and creator of all, entering human history not as a majestic booming voice in the heavens, but as a human being like us, and a baby, no less. Who could have imagined it? Yet it was true— the shepherds and the wise men knew that it was true, and we, the heirs of such a joyous revelation, know it also: God Himself had in fact come into human history, at last, and forevermore, and man was never to be the same.

Another great Jesuit, Fr. Catalino Arévalo, S.J. points out that one of the earliest theological concepts which the fledgling Christian Church often returned to in explaining the Faith was the meaning of the Incarnation, and the understanding of Jesus’s nature. Setting down this belief in a specific formula, the early Church affirmed Jesus Christ as:

God from God, Light from Light,
true God from true God, begotten, not made,
of one Being with the Father.
Through him all things were made.
For us and for our salvation
he came down from heaven:
by the power of the Holy Spirit
he became incarnate from the Virgin Mary,
and was made man [Nicene Creed].
It was necessary to enunciate this nature of Jesus both as true-God by substance and true-Man by birth, because in Christ’s being in-carnis— of the flesh like us— the Church preached a reality that was absent from all pagan belief of that time, and one that will perhaps resonate with us today, two thousand years later: that God suffered.

That God died.

By Jesus’s Incarnation, the Church Fathers tell us, even the darkest of human fears, the deepest of human sufferings, the most senseless of human deaths, God, through Jesus, has experienced and has therefore made Divine. The desert places in our lives are no longer unvisted, because here too, God has entered. For he is Emmanuel— God with us, definitively, and forever.

But what is more amazing— as though this was not amazing enough— is the inescapable conclusion drawn from this coming (indeed, the very reason for his dying): that God became man as a revelation of the depth of His love for us. “For God so loved the world that he gave us his only son so that everyone who believes in him might not perish but might have eternal life.” [John 3:16] Through the Incarnation, God’s love now seems ever more palpable, ever more near, ever more personal, embodied now in the human face of a babe in the arms of his virgin mother.

And suddenly, all of human suffering takes on a different dimension, all of human frailty and indecision, all of human fault and folly, as the Divine Love takes them all into Himself, transforming even the darkest corners of man’s darkest days into vehicles of grace and salvation. Death and suffering no longer are impenetrable uncertainties man experiences alone; imbued with His abiding presence, man is now never alone, even in this suffering, even in this death, all because He has come, and in His coming, what was His meaning? “Wit it well: Love was His meaning.” [Julian of Norwich]

* * *

The Christian philosopher Dietrich von Hildebrandt would often say that the chasm that separates God and man is so great that man, by himself, cannot cross it. That is why he is always left searching; he is always left waiting.

The Mystery of the Incarnation celebrates that moment when God Himself chose to cross that chasm of our humanity in order to “pitch his tent among us,” because loving us, He desired to make every human endeavor, every human reality, even human suffering and human death, something of Himself.

By this Incarnation, there no longer is anything alien to the heart of God, for He has entered into the smallest and most insignificant of human experiences and has infused it with His love; yes, even the most mundane of mornings, when it is difficult to get up for school; or the most lonely of evenings, when the empty silence greets a long drive home. He is even present when lovers stroll beneath strands of golden starlight at Bellarmine field, and when lovers wake up apart because love has failed and love is not enough. For He too has known of these things, of friendship, betrayal, loss, hope, and love— human love, frail and ephemeral, He has also made his own.

Indeed, although the cynic inside me still says that in this grey-grown world, love may not be enough, I am comforted by the warm knowledge that where love is lacking, God comes and takes what is left, and makes glory of the emptiness, and fills it with his own. For God, in his coming, never promised us that life would be smooth sailing; only that He be in the ship with us, as Emmanuel— God-with-us— guiding us through the storms and rough seas; and His love, through the squall, would be reassurance enough.

As Christmas morning scatters the darkness of this long and dreary night, I pray that the wonder of that first Christmas when God definitively said “I love you” be ever fresh in your hearts, and may this love, that conquers even death, be for you love that is enough.

Wednesday, December 21, 2005 

Same Time Next Year


Not for the first time I look back on all those years
Not for the last time names will ring in my ear
When there was just a gang of us storming the town by train and bus
A moment of thought this heart sends to old friends

Old Friends by Everything But the Girl


It was the season, I think, that brought us all together— at least what was left of us who still remembered. The plans themselves were, in the beginning, somewhat spontaneous and sketchy, but in the end, we settled on what was old and familiar: coffee and conversation, just like the old days. We were professionals now, coming in ties and sleeves, barongs and pointed shoes, and while the talk flowed free and easy, it became clear that while we had come from the same place, we no longer were the same people; and the only common present we shared was a common past, now somewhat even imagined.

Make no mistake about it, though: the days we had were good days; no doubt, we had a good run. Those days will remain to be one of the most colorful days of my life, as I am sure, of the others' as well. And while the nostalgia did not quite fully descend this evening, teetering, as it did on the edge of remembrance, these memories— to borrow from Neal Marlens— will certainly stay with us for the long haul. Indeed, as one of us observed, we only had each other to understand; in our insecure youth, who else did we have?

But life happened, and we chose to live it, in our own way, at least, without having to feel responsible for or accountable to anyone else. Indeed, it was not that we fought, or had any misunderstanding, or that we drifted apart. We felt no betrayal, no heartache at some frustrated future, no regret for some unfinished past. Sitting there in that coffee shop, we knew exactly what had happened: we had grown up; we had outgrown each other.

We parted with handshakes and hugs, getting into our cars, driving in different directions. Ingat, pare. Sa uulitin. Some things change. Some things stay the same. Same time next year, I thought, if ever.

Monday, December 19, 2005 

Sayád

On an evening conversation over coffee last weekend, a friend whom I have not seen for quite some time now was, quite characteristically, angst-ing. He was a batchmate in college, graduated with honors, and is now working in one of the larger pharmaceutical firms in the country. Everything seemed to be going his way, and from what I could see, he was pretty much satisfied with his life. He had his own car now, was living in his own flat, some savings in the bank, and a stable job. I was not surprised— he worked hard, and partied even harder.

The evening's conversation was light and comfortable, but it wasn't until he began recounting the tragi-comedy of the past two years' attempts at a relationship that we found ourselves laughing like giggling schoolgirls. He told me, for instance, of how he had been going out with this girl whom he later on found out to be cheating on her boyfriend, who turned out to be his cousin. Or the time he found himself in the middle of a spat between two feuding sisters, trying to make the other jealous. “Ewan ko nga, e,” he said finally, “Bakit ba lahat na lang ng mga nakukursunadahan ko, sayád.” He gave out an exasperated laugh.

“Don't be too hard on yourself,” I said in reassurance, knowing exactly what he meant. “Lahat naman tayo, paminsan-minsan, talagang may-sayad.” At that point, I was reminded of that scene in Sleepless in Seattle, where Annie, feeling thoroughly crazy over her attraction towards someone she hasn't even met, consults her brother, Tom, on what to do.
INT. ANNIE'S BROTHER TOM'S OFFICE - DAY
Annie bursts into Tom's office and walks over to his desk. He barely has time to look up.

ANNIE
I think I'm going crazy, Tom. I really do. Are you happily married?

TOM
(completely panicked by the question) What?

ANNIE
I mean, why did you get married? Was it all fireworks and trumpets and—

TOM
(regaining composure) I got married because Betsy said we had to break up or get married. So we get married.

ANNIE
But when you met her, did you believe she was the only person for you? That in some mystical, cosmic way, it was fated?

TOM
Annie, when you meet someone and you're attracted to them, it just means that your subconscious is attracted to their subconscious, subconsciously. So what we think of as chemistry is just two neuroses knowing that they are a perfect match.

ANNIE
I don't even know him. But I'm having all these fantasies about a man I've never met, who lives in Seattle.

TOM
It rains nine months of the year in Seattle.

ANNIE
I know, I know. I do not want to move to Seattle. But what I really don't want to do is end up always wondering what might have happened and knowing I could have done something. What do you think?
So what we think of as chemistry is just two neuroses knowing that they are a perfect match. The words are funny, only because the words are true. In fact, a noted professor of civil law is said to have once quipped that all marriages are ipso facto voidable by reason of insanity because only the insane get married. “Notice,” he said, “people always seem to relate love and marriage to insanity, like ‘being madly in-love,’ or ‘the love that overthrows reason.’”

Indeed, I've learned that everybody has their own insane moments; everybody is, in someway, I think, already insane— in love, or otherwise. And in intervals of lucidity when we return to ourselves, sometimes we are embarrassed by what we do because of this temporary affliction, sometimes we feel stupid and even diminished; most times, however, we are (I suspect) reassured by our capacity to surprise even ourselves, as we venture out of the little boxes of our constructed security, prompting us, at last, to do things which we would never dream of doing while “sane.”

Amor facit extasim, the Latins used to say. Love draws us out of ourselves. In the end, it is this kind of madness which we find ourselves relishing, one which we revel in and celebrate (after all, ang kilig ay biyaya rin ng Diyos, a priest once told me). We feel insanely alive, and rightly so, knowing that it is the same kind of madness which moves even martyrs and poets.

Sunday, December 18, 2005 

Prayer to a God Unseen

Truly you are a God who hides himself,
O God and Savior of Israel.
Isaiah 45:15


I watched him as he carefully lifted the bread between heaven and earth, invoking the words of our ancient faith:

While they were at supper, he took bread, said the blessing, broke the bread, and gave it to his disciples, saying: TAKE THIS, ALL OF YOU, AND EAT IT: THIS IS MY BODY WHICH WILL BE GIVEN UP FOR YOU.
The altar bells rang, and the fragrance of incense burst forth from the thurible burning hot with red embers, and together with the smoke that rose up to the heavens, the prayers of our restless hearts.

How many times have I knelt there in silent adoration, with incense in my hands, feeling the cold hardness of the marble floor upon my knees, watching as priests of every size and shape perform those motions of our salvation, as Christ commanded them, lifting paten and chalice, for two thousand years, and forever more, offering God to God. The mystery of the moment— of being so close to that miracle of faith, as bread turned into flesh, and wine turned into blood— once was a source of great consolation for me, because I knew that He was actually, really there, a presence who was alive, an old friend coming to visit.

Kneeling there tonight, however, I felt strangely tired and distracted, even somewhat doubtful of what it was I was doing. The whole evening also seemed somewhat surreal, as though I had come home to a house I no longer recognized. Have I been gone too long? Has the world numbed the fervor of my youth so that even God no longer moved me, leaving instead a void that was silent yet comfortable? Already the people I had seen there, once so familiar that they were almost like family, were misplaced and alien, and the memories of our shared moments— in some cases, moments which ended even before they began— only heightened the feeling of nostalgia and loneliness, or perhaps, even of regret.

Where have I been?
What have I been doing?
Where am I going?

I did not feel like asking the questions tonight, because I was too tired of not getting the answers. I only knew the restlessness that I felt, and the silent loneliness of long evening drives, and the dull longing for a person or a presence I did not yet know or perhaps could not recognize— these were frequent whispered prayers I did not bother to remember, tonight, of all nights, especially; because before a God who did not see, I knew that there was only darkness; before a God who did not hear, I knew that there was only chatter; and before a God who did not speak, I knew there was only silence. And before God, this evening, I knew I was alone.

Tuesday, December 13, 2005 

Waves and Washouts

Almost on a whim, I spent an unexpected weekend with a couple of law school friends in San Juan, La Union. This all began a couple of weeks ago, following the LSAC Christmas party, when, while having a couple of drinks at Good Earth in Rockwell, Xilca, a friend from the law school, had jokingly asked me whether I would be willing to drive the three hundred kilometers with her to go surfing in La Union. She had been planning to go on the trip for some time now— alone, if needed, because everyone seemed to have busy schedules— but was having second thoughts because of the expense. Not knowing my penchant for long drives, and the fact that I had absolutely nothing to do until after New Year's Day, I, almost without thinking, called her bluff, willing always to go to back to the beach, if only for a brief overnight trip.

Following a week of hurried text messages and rather sketchy plans (it was the first time for me to actually go out of town without much of an idea of where I would be staying, who I would be going with, or how I would actually get there), I found myself speeding down the North Expressway at two o'clock in the morning, trying to keep awake after a long day of mundane errands and minor personal crises. It was a good thing that my navigator and I had (surprisingly, and quite pleasantly) many things to talk about, so that the seven hour drive went by without much incident.

We arrived at the Surfer's Inn at about ten o'clock in the morning, and while I was a bit drowsy from driving straight from Manila, I took the effort of walking the couple of meters to the beach, and saw, for the first time, the waves which we would try to ride later that afternoon. Already, there were a number of surfers in the water, some in the deep where the ocean was calmer, and others nearer the shore, catching the waves as they broke on the shallows.

From where I stood, the waves looked persistent, but small, and while they ferociously broke on the rocks in the distance, I did not quite appreciate the force of their approach, fascinated only by the white foam spreading itself like fingers on the dark sand of the beach. I went back to the room and tried to get some sleep.

Ansky, who had agreed to come along for the weekend, took the bed next to mine, while Xilca stayed on the second floor, because the first floor could only accommodate two people. While I was able to doze-off for about half an hour because of the exhaustion, I found myself awake at around half-past twelve, first, because of hunger, and second, because I knew that I was not on my own bed. I tried to get a little more rest, but my fragile sleep could no longer be retrieved. Finding Ansky half-awake on the bed across mine, I asked whether she wanted to get something to eat. Xilca, she said, was sleeping, and asked not to be woken. And so, following our stomachs, Ansky and I sought for a restaurant out on the seafront, but found that they were not serving lunch.

On the beach, I looked out to sea, and watched more of the waves clamber onto shore. They seemed much louder now and more unrelenting, more ominous than earlier this morning, and I told Ansky, "Kaya ba natin 'yan? Mukhang nakakatakot." And I meant it. The water looked deep, and the white foam which earlier had fascinated my sleep-deprived mind now looked like insidious tentacles, long and foreboding. What a time to chicken out, I thought.

But I would address the fear later on. A more primal need had to be satisfied. Following our stomachs, therefore, Ansky and I found ourselves eating at the first restaurant that presented itself along the main highway. It was an open-air ihaw-ihaw; I had a pork steak, Ansky had a grilled tangigue steak. The servings were not that big, but for P45 and almost half a day without food, who could complain?

After lunch, we found Xilca still asleep upstairs. It was nearly two o'clock, and I figured, we'd spend the afternoon resting, and get down to surfing the next day. It wasn't such a bad idea, I thought, because I was not about to meet those waves lightheaded and sleepy. I jumped back into bed intending to get more sleep, although I knew that I would not be able to since taking naps was never something I was used to doing, even with only two hour's sleep. And so, I drifted between wakefulness and slumber, barely cognizant of the vehicles that rumbled down the highway just outside our room. The mere attempt at sleep, I found, was strangely restful, so that I did not notice that I had been in bed already for almost two hours. I heard Xilca coming down on the stairs, and, between yawns, drowsily asked her whether she was ready to hit the beach. She said yes.

After rousing Ansky from her nap, changing into our beach wear, and coordinating with our instructor, Anthony, we were on the beach, at last, learning the fundamentals of surfing. It was about four o'clock then, and the sun, hiding behind thick clouds the whole day, made a brief appearance closer to the horizon, casting gentle orange hues on the water and on the sand. It was no longer warm, and the sea breeze made the scene more idyllic, were in not for our excitement at finally hitting the water.

Xilca, Ansky and I each had our own instructors who were locals, and with our long boards, they taught us the proper way to lay flat on the board while paddling out to meet the waves, and how to push up from it, with right foot planted squarely in the middle of the board, and the left three-quarters from the end, leaning slightly forward, with knees bent, to keep balance, when the waves finally swept us towards the shore. The simulated surf seemed simple enough: laying flat, pushing up, planting feet firmly on the surface. And then again, and another time.

No sooner had we been taught on the beach that we were wading into the water, meeting the waves which seemed so much bigger now that we were actually in the surf. The instructor pulled the board along side us, as we struggled against the water, with the waves getting stronger and stronger as we got further away from the shore. What was surprising was that I could still walk the surf, and that the water never got any deeper than my chest, forgetting that waves form precisely in those areas where the sea gets shallow.

It was an effort just wading out into the sea, even with the instructor helping to push the board forward. Upon reaching a suitable distance, we would point the board towards the shore, and I would get on it, as I did on the beach, but this time, salt water splashing all around me. I gripped the board, trying to stay on, when, with the rising of the wave around me, the instructor would push the board forward giving it momentum, matching my speed to the rushing wave, and I would slide down together with it towards the shore.

The speed was something I did not expect: traveling with the wave did not give one much time to think, only to react to the forward motion, and finally: pushing up, planting feet firmly on the surface, balancing with the movement of the wave, and hoping that you didn't fall off!

But I did, many times, struggling beneath the waves, and gulping in the salt. Pushing off from the board during that first attempt, I twisted my back without intending to, sending sharp jolts up my spine. What a time for my back to act up again, I thought, and of all places! But finding that the pain was more inconvenient than distressing, I persisted, careful not to make any sudden sharp movements with my back. For about an hour, we did the rounds, each time, pulling the board against the wave out to the sea. For a couple of runs, I found my balance, and stood on the board triumphantly, reaching almost onto the shore, completing a long ride— thrilling, especially for the ultra-beginner.

I stood on the beach after our hour-long instruction, exhausted and out of breath from fighting the waves, and discovered a new and healthy respect for surfing which— and the three of us agreed— was not as easy as it probably looked. We looked forward to the next day, when we would try to go at it on our own, doubtful if we could, but it was fun, nonetheless.

The sun was setting when I left the beach, and I could not resist taking a La Union sunset.


We had a pre-dinner drink at the neighboring surf resort, the room rates of which we found affordable (P1600/night for a room, maximum of four people), but more expensive than our accommodations for the evening (P250/person). Of course, we did not have cable television or air conditioning, but we were all on a tight budget. It was a cowboy weekend for cowboy people, an unexpected adventure which was turning out fine.

We found ourselves having dinner with real surfer dudes and dudettes staying at the Surfer's Inn with us. They brought us to Midway Diner, a restaurant no more than five minutes away from the Surfer's Inn. The food, we found was cheap: nothing went over P130, with most of the dishes ranging from P60-P90. And the servings were quite generous; the softdrinks, bottomless at P25. It wasn't difficult to understand why surfers frequented the place: cheap filling dishes for big surfers' (and hapless Manila travelers') appetites.

From our dinner conversation, we learned that most of the surfers with us at table had been surfing for over five years, and in those five years, each would almost always spend weekends in La Union. They told us that by far, the best way to travel was by bus, leaving on a Friday night, and arriving early Saturday morning. And they told us how surfing could get addicting: the moment they could stand on the board, they were hooked. What was interesting for us to note, however, was that these surfers were all professionals: they were lawyers and architects, they worked for internet companies and produced plays. And they surfed almost every weekend, one wondered where they'd find time for such a diversion.

We excused ourselves early from dinner, wanting to get to bed. They told us that the best time to catch the surf was in the morning, and we said that we'd try to wake up in time for it. When we got back to our room, we didn't say much to each other, knowing that we all had sleep in our heads. While it took me a while to drift off to sleep that evening, mercifully, I did, at around two the next morning.

We all woke up at about the same time, which was to say, we all woke up later than we had wanted to. It was already nine in the morning when I heard Xilca stirring in our room, preparing to get out on the beach. Somewhat groggy, but determined, I followed. Wanting to save on the board rental, we decided to take turns using the surf board of one of Xilca's friends who had allowed her to use it for free. Without an instructor, we waded out into the ocean, each in our own turn, and tried to ride our own waves.

* * *

Initially, I found, the most difficult thing was actually getting yourself out there into the water with your surfboard, and wading out into the churning grey ocean to where the waves formed and broke. The apprehension, of course, was understandable, because as someone quite correctly observed, we do not have an instinct for water. Drowning was an ever-present fear.

Strangely, I found that the water was not inconveniently chilly, or perhaps I just did not notice it, intent as I was in fighting off the waves as they came, in rhythmic succession, sometimes throwing me off balance and sometimes even pushing me under the surf. At other times, I'd find myself paddling out, which took much more effort than walking in the water, because the waves would just push me back closer to the shore. It was really this walk or this paddle out to the surf which was tiring and discouraging. I sometimes felt that I wasn't getting anywhere, only drifting lazily between crests.

But persistence was a virtue, even in surfing, and so pressing ahead, I finally reached that part of the water where the waves rolled in from the ocean, bulging up in the shallowing beach shelf. I turned my board around, and facing the shore, I jumped on quickly, anticipating the rising of a wave behind me.

At that moment, resting my chest on the board, I felt strangely but pleasantly alone in the water. The breaking of the surf was muffled in the distance, and all I could hear was the eerie muted noise of the sea as it approached behind me. And the board rose up with the coming of the wave— one need only feel being lifted up— and I started paddling, left hand over the board, right hand, left, and then right, trying to keep pace with the wave.

Often, my paddling was too slow, and the wave would just pass me by, carrying me up on the crest for a moment, but later, gently (or sometimes violently) taking me back down to the surface. I'd wait for the next wave, now somewhat closer to the shore, and I'd paddle frantically again, hoping to catch it in its cresting. On lucky moments, I would, and I would surge forward on the water, the speed terrific in the foam, and I would try to stand, attempting to plant my left foot firmly on the middle of the board. But the speed of the surf and the instability of the water would often push me off balance, and I fell into the foam, a complete washout.


Recovering from the fall (after coughing out the saltiest water I had ever tasted), I was often short of breath, for the first time feeling the fatigue of wading out against the ocean. Panting, I'd recover my board, attached to my right leg by a leash, and facing it out into the ocean again, I'd try to think about where I had gone wrong during the last ride. Sometimes, the chosen wave was just too big. But often, it was my balance that was off. Washing out again and again, I learned that even in surfing, balance was everything.

But other waves would come, certainly, and I ventured out into the surf again, walking, paddling, drifting as the water got calmer out to sea. Out in the distance, I could see the experienced surfers just hanging on to their boards, seemingly doing nothing, but actually (I learned later on), waiting for the perfect wave. I turned my board back onto the shore, got on it again, and waited for mine.

While it certainly was not the perfect wave (experienced surfers would probably scoff at its height and the simplicity of its cresting), I caught a couple of them just as they broke, able, finally, to match my paddling with the speed of their cresting. But more than this, as the unexpected wave pushed me along the water, I was able to plant my foot firmly, and, lifting myself up from the board and extending my arms out for balance, I was able to stand, soaring above the surf, and I saw the water somewhat differently, standing at last on the surfboard. The wave and I had merged, it seemed, and while it lasted only for about ten seconds each time, it was enough. The wave had carried me safely back to the shore.


I carried my board from the water back to the beach, turning it over to Xilca, who was next in her turn. It was a tiring ride, I thought, but strangely satisfying. And while I knew I was nothing compared to those that rode the waves as an act of the will, I had an idea of what it was to surf, to match the wave, and be brought back to the shore by nothing more than the forward rush of water. And it wasn't easy.

Discussing the experience on the beach while watching Xilca on the surf, Ansky asked, “What was your favorite part?”

Without thinking, I said, “Definitely, standing up on the board, as the waves carried you forward.”

She nodded her agreement. “E, ikaw, what's your favorite part?”

Ako?” she said, thinking for a moment. “Ah, that moment just before I'd fall into the water.”

* * *

We had late lunch at a local carinderia, after which, Ansky planned to get an instructor before leaving for Manila. While waiting for her to finish her session, I laid on the beach, hoping to get some sun. It was about four-thirty when we prepared to leave, but not before Ansky, Xilca and I played some frisbee on the beach. We left for Manila at exactly five-thirty in the afternoon, and made the City in around six hours, with an hour for dinner at ChowKing somewhere in Tarlac. I got home a little before midnight, exhausted from the long drive, yet satisfied with the spontaneity of the weekend. It would not be the last.

Monday, December 12, 2005 

Seeing Clearly (and Other Inanities)

It's back to reality again for me, following a strangely pleasant surfing weekend in La Union. Being on the beach always has the effect of resetting my often over-active brain, and arriving back in Manila, the sluggishness characteristic of the first day of the week was all the more heightened by the sound of the waves still crashing in my head.

So lethargic was I this morning that I was not able to wake up for a trip that I was supposed to take to Pampanga with Ray and Yoya Guinoo, to visit her parents in Magalang. It was the feast of Our Lady of Guadalupe, and the couple asked me whether I would like to tag along for the celebration. Unfortunately (and for the fourth time, I think), I had to call-in for a raincheck.

It was a good thing, then, that my mom had reminded me that my contact lenses were finally available from our optometrist. I went there at about lunch time, and I was immediately taught how to put them on. I found that it wasn't such an easy task— the eye-reflex was just too persistent that contact lenses were still considered foreign objects, and finally having put one on (after much effort and frustration), I had the compulsion of rubbing it off. Resisting a reflex, I found, can take some effort. Finally, after around thirty minutes of struggle, my eyes red and stinging, I was finally able to put both lenses on.

It was a strange sensation, seeing clearly without glasses, so that looking at myself in the mirror for the first time, I felt strangely alien to myself: I could see myself unfuzzy, but something appeared to be missing! Indeed, the novelty of the moment was not lost to me, having worn glasses for most of my life.

But the cleaning liquid still stung, and my eyes were, by then, very itchy. Seeing clearly isn't such a simple thing, I thought. And I had to worry about having to take the lenses off again. That turned out to be a bigger struggle.

* * *

I got my camera the day after my lolo passed away. My uncle had cut his trip short from Hong Kong after learning of the sad news, and as I consequence, I got my camera a whole week earlier. Not wanting my first pictures to be about death, I found myself taking snaps of my youngest cousin, Jumbo.


Of course, he's not called Jumbo anymore— it was a name which one of my uncles gave him because he was a huge baby when he was born— but J.B. He is now the party favorite, and I bet, come Christmas, he will have more new fans. My only regret is that he will not grow up knowing our lolo.

* * *

Maybe it's because I've been engaging in totally un-Christmassy activities like going to Boracay, and attempting to surf, but I really don't feel like Christmas is just twelve days away. I would remember when I was in law school (or even in college), the beginning of December would always find me giddy in anticipation for my favorite time of the year. Perhaps it was because, while in school, it was the only thing I would look forward to, having too few things to keep me occupied.

Hopefully, when I go Christmas shopping tomorrow, some of that Christmas feeling will finally descend upon me. I desperately want to feel that Christmas fuzziness. Or maybe I'm just too old for it. *Sigh*
* * *
Abangan: Waves and Washouts

Monday, December 05, 2005 

Confessions of a Boracay Virgin


I begin with a brief introduction.

Many people are surprised and even somewhat embarrassed for me when I tell them that I have never yet been to Boracay. Perhaps this was due to the fact that I had learned quite late that I am really a beach bum by way of preference in vacation destinations; and before I had the chance of taking the plunge into the blue waters of Boracay, nearer and much accessible beaches seemed to be a more logical choice: Anilao, Calatagan, Nasugbu, Matabungkay, Puerto Galera. These were often short weekend trips, or made between semesters in law school, without much expense or fanfare. The sun was good, I thought, the sand was fine enough, and the company even better— Boracay could be put off to some other time.

As with everything else in my life after the bar, therefore, I finally had time to get around doing the things which I had been putting off for so long. I had just come from a week in Bohol and Davao with my family, and the next big vacation was, of course, finally, Boracay.

The plans were straightforward enough: five days, four nights, Boracay Island, November 24-28, to coincide with the long weekend of Bonifacio Day. Kristine would arrange the accommodations, and since I had frequent flyer miles with Philippine Airlines, I would take care of my own transportation and fly separately. I thought about the arrangement, and found both the accommodations and the schedule agreeable. However, knowing that only four of us were confirmed for the trip— myself, Kristine, Paolo and their friend Jason who was flying in from California— I had my doubts as to the length of time we were to spend there.

Date: Sun, 23 Oct 2005 20:13:08 -0700 (PDT)
From:"Peej Bernardo"
Subject: Re: Progress on Boracay [Fwd: BILLING STATEMENT & PAYMENT INSTRUCTIONS]
To: "Tin Reyes"

Kristine, I'm still in Davao. I will be flying back tonight on the six p.m. flight.

I'm still okay with your proposed schedule, although I thought: maybe five days will be too long for me? I guess it's fine with you, since you can just spend idle time cuddling with Paolo, or something [eeep!], whereas I'd be left contemplating suicide at the edge of the water!

Seriously, though, I'm concerned that I might just get bored by the 4th or 5th day. I mean, it is five friggin' days on a small island. One can only stay drunk for so long!

Thus far my thoughts.

peej b.

This was an email that, coming home from the trip, I would never hear the end of. It was a good thing that Kristine had the good sense to dismiss my concerns and reassure me that five days would, in fact, be barely sufficient to take-in the entire Bora experience. She would be right, of course, because having just experienced it for myself, the island, I found, was the ultimate natural opiate. One could not get enough of it.


DAY ONE [November 24]: Resetting Clocks

First Impressions

The 24th of November was a very long day for me. I had only slept for two hours before being roused for my eight-fifteen flight to Caticlan. I had originally been booked to fly with Philippine Airlines, at nine-thirty later that morning, landing in Kalibo a little over an hour later. Thankfully, however, I was not able to get a booking for my return flight home on the 28th, and prompted by a friend’s suggestion that I take one of the local airlines which landed in Caticlan, I was constrained to change my booking for this earlier flight, taking me directly beside the island and thereby saving me two hours of inconvenient overland travel.

I arrived at the Manila Domestic Airport a quarter past seven in the morning. Breezing through check-in, I sat in the rather large and noisy pre-departure area with my camera bag and IPod in tow. So engrossed was I with tinkering with the gadget that I barely noticed Paolo, Kristine and Jason arriving some thirty minutes later and sitting at the first row of the hall, in front of me, to the right. Their flight would depart ten minutes before mine, and walking over to them, I felt my first surge of excitement at the prospect of the next five days.

Sitting with them near the departure gate, I saw, through the large glass-paneled windows, the aircraft that we would probably be taking. I, of course, had issues with riding airplanes— more so, with those propeller-driven turboprop ones like the one I was going to take. It was only recently when this morbid fear of flying seized me— I never had issues when I was much younger— and I figured this was due to the natural recognition of mortality that dawns as one gets older, realizing, perhaps, that one is not as invincible as he thought he was. Dying in an airplane is terrible, I thought, because you absolutely had no control over your own survival: an airplane falls from the sky, you are surely dead; in a car accident or a boat collision, there still is a possibility of surviving.

I tried to put these thoughts aside as I boarded the SeaAir Dornier DO-328, settling into seat 14A, right behind the left wing. It was a small aircraft: only around twenty people were in the cabin. The right side of the plane had two seats to a row, while the left side, a single column by the windows. An isle divided the two halves of the plane, leading directly to the pilot’s cockpit, whose door was open the whole time during the flight.

A moment later, the engines whirred to life, and after quickly taxiing to the main runway, rumbled down for a brisk take-off. I was surprised by the thrust that the engines generated, pushing me flat against my seat. We were airborne in an instant, and Manila drifted like a happy memory beneath me. We banked gently south, toward Boracay.

The IPod had helped me while away the thirty-five minute flight. No sooner had I started on one of the pre-programmed playlists that I saw outside my window what I figured to be the famous strip of beach, called the White Beach, that was characteristically Boracay.

It was not an island in the middle of nowhere, I thought to myself. Neither was it circular as I had imagined, like those South Pacific islands I saw a lot in photographs. And the island was quite large; Boracay was not only a beach after all.

My thoughts were interrupted by the plane’s sudden landing— quite bumpy, if you ask me; but I was glad that I was on the ground alive. I deplaned to the deafening roar of the propellers still spinning, and found my group waiting in the arrival area of the Caticlan airport, filled now with people from both arriving flights.

We quickly retrieved our bags, registered with the tourist department, and found a forty-peso tricycle to take us to the Caticlan port for the ferry ride to the island, a mere three kilometers away.


One Giant Leap

The ferry itself was quite large, with a capacity of about fifty people. There were a number of holidaymakers on the boat with us, but a greater number were locals bringing produce and other wares to the island. The ferry cut across the choppy waters of the Tabon Strait with a noisy and smoky pump engine, kept alive by a boatman who siphoned water out of the stores below. As the island grew closer on its southern side, I noticed both beach and craggy outcrops of rock, punctuated now and then by hillside resorts and villas. Moving further up the coast, the ferry sailed parallel to White Beach, and from where we were seated, the sand gleamed white under the morning sun. The first thing I realized was how long the beach really was. Seeing it from the air gave the illusion of smallness; but on the ferry, one had to turn his head left to right in order to survey its vast expanse, white sand everywhere.

We docked in what I later learned to be Station Three, a good distance from the shore. I watched drowsily as passengers carefully balanced themselves on the gangplank with their luggage held high, and later, wading in the knee-deep water, careful not to drop anything into the waves. The process would be repeated once again, as the boat stopped in Station Two, and then later, Station One, each time, the ship emptying until it was only us on board.

It finally stopped with a gentle lurch, sand crunching beneath its bow. We had arrived. I slung my tote bag over the left shoulder, and my camera bag on my right. I then stepped off the boat, following Paolo’s, Kristine’s and Jason’s lead. I felt like an astronaut stepping onto the lunar surface for the first time. One giant leap, I thought.

The first thing I noticed was the softness of the sand beneath my slippers. There were absolutely no stones or corals, so much so that Paolo and Kristine, veterans of the Boracay experience, had already gone barefoot on the beach. Already carrying too many things, I opted to keep my slippers on, as I followed them some distance up the beach to our hotel, past Willie’s Rock, to the White House, at Station One.

After checking in and depositing our things in our respective rooms (which were quite large and richly appointed), I received a text from Sheryl who was on the island with her high school barkada. They were still in bed, she told me, but she said she could meet me in around an hour’s time, at Jona’s. It was then ten thirty.

I ceremoniously removed my watch and turned off my cellular phone, depositing both into the room safe. It was now Boracay time, I thought: another way of saying that time didn’t matter, or so the Boracay veterans told me. I then changed into my boardshorts and beach shirt and, without waiting for the others, parked myself on the beach to survey our territory of the next five days. The beachfront that morning was almost deserted, save for an occasional beachcomber by the edge of the water. And the water, I saw, was glorious: shifting from transparent foam to a luminous green then blue. The sight was refreshing to the eyes.

I headed to Jona’s, taking directions from the bartender of our hotel.


Bora Babes at Jona’s

I reached the restaurant without much difficulty, and found it already full with holiday-makers in various stages of undress. I sat in one of the tables closer the entrance, and ordered my first Choco-Banana shake. Sheryl arrived some minutes later, towing a magazine she had bought to keep her company on the flight home later that afternoon.

You hardly have a tan, I told her. She said that it was partly because she had really stayed in for most of the days she was there, and that it had been raining for the past two days. Rain? In Boracay? Didn’t seem possible, I told her.

She then proceeded to tell me about their barkada’s activities for the past couple of days: how they enjoyed parasailing yet blew half their Bora budget in one fell swoop; how their boyfriends had stayed on over the weekend but had to leave ahead because of school or work; how they ate in this restaurant, and ordered this particular meal. After our shakes came, we drifted into catching up with each other’s lives, not having seen each other for quite some time since taking the Bar. After a few perfunctory stories, we realized that we didn’t have much to tell: life after law school has been blissfully uncomplicated and boring.

Her barkada arrived a couple of minutes later.

There was Karen, whom I had not seen since our college days in HPAIR, and who had recently gotten married. There was Pia, who worked in an advertising agency, and who had just won a Palanca Award for Futuristic Fiction. And there was Kara, whom I occasionally saw in the law school (and once in Amici), and who liked to take pictures like I did.

Over lunch, I told them that it was my first time in Boracay, and excitedly, they told me all the things that I could do in the five days that I would be there. I told them that a friend had quite generously made a Boracay-Must-Do for me, and I enumerated them for their approval:

1. Have a shake at Jona’s (Choco-Banana is good if you’re binging, otherwise, watermelon is the way to go);
2. At 5ish, go to Nigi-Nigi, have a drink (it’s happy hour) and enjoy the sunset;
3. Try the following: chorizo/longganisa burger sold at these stalls erywhere— they set up at around dinner time, K.O. Chicken, and the Mexican place near K.O. Chicken (although beware, food takes really long so order early);
4. Get a henna tattoo (not a must though);
5. Try the drink “Illusions” in Cocomanga’s;
6. Have lunch at the palengke— fresh seafood cooked right there (icky ambience though!);
7. For early drinks (post-supper), go to Hey Jude! (cool sounds)
8. Snorkel, paraglide, or go sailing (no banana boats— uncool)
9. Check out D’Mall but don’t buy anything (palengke na lang, it’s cheaper)
10. If you’re feeling adventurous, rent a scooter and explore the area around the beach.

Because She and Kara had a 2:15 flight back to Manila, they had to excuse themselves early from the meal, but without first insisting that I take a picture of their barkada in Boracay.



Hemingway on the Beach

After lunch, and now without Kara and She, Karen, Pia and I started walking towards Station One, because Karen had to look for accommodations for a relative who was flying in for the weekend. It was then, while waiting for Karen as she went in and out of the various resorts, that that Pia and I got to talk about her Palanca award, about writing, and about self-expression.

She told me how she was really surprised by the news of her winning, and how elating it was, during the awarding ceremonies, to be in the presence of those quintessential Filipino writers who have, by giving her the award, acknowledged that she knew something of their craft too. She spoke about her style of writing, how she would have stories written in her head, just waiting for birth, how she would construct concepts and flesh out stories around them.

I spoke about my secret fantasy of winning a Palanca, but yet do not really like writing because I would feel that I am slicing myself inside out every time; and how I find writing fiction difficult, even discouraging, because my plot lines are trite, and my characters gaudy.

We spoke about our favorite authors, and our favorite books. About how Hemingway could say so much with so little in “A Clean, Well-Lighted Place,” and why Wong Kar Wai loved to jog. She said that I should get my writing out there. I said, sorry, I don’t have the courage.

It was an unexpected conversation, and one which I found to be one of the more satisfying ones I’ve had in a long, long time.

Finally reaching the end of station one with Karen, Pia and I decided to head for the water. The surf was gentle on my feet, because it broke meters away from the shore. The water was refreshing, but not cold. And the depth of the water barely reached my knees for a good ten meters from the beach, without a seashell or stone or moss or seaweed. I had to crouch down low to get my whole body wet.


Hope For Me, Still

Later, Karen joined us, saying that it was the first time, in the four days she had been in Boracay, that she had actually gone into the water. Pia drifted off onto land to get some sun, and Karen and I found ourselves reminiscing about our HPAIR days in college, and what happened to people since then, as is typical when old friends meet after many, many years.

I asked her about what married life was like, and she said it was wonderful. Ever the sucker for love-stories, I couldn’t resist asking her hers.

She said that they had met through a blind date set-up by a mutual friend. They had immediately hit it off so that they became a couple only a short time later, before he was to return to his work in Singapore. Of course, the marriage proposal was romantic, as perhaps I imagined all proposals would be: in the restaurant where they had their first date. Then everything just seemed to fall into place.

"“When you meet the right one,” she said, “everything simply does. Doesn’t really matter how long you’ve known him.” And I knew she was content.

So, it happens pala,” I said. “I thought blind dates and ocean romances happen only in the movies.”

“Oh, yes, it happens. Oh yes,” she enthusiastically replies.

May pag-asa pa pala ako,” I say, laughing.

The sun was already setting when Karen, Pia and I decided to get drinks from Jona’s. After a whole afternoon of being on the beach, I was looking forward to a cold, cold mango shake. We sat in the benches outside, and watched a group of foreigners play the locals in an intense game of volleyball. The beach was more crowded here, with people playing Frisbee, volleyball, and even football right beside the water.

And I witnessed my first Boracay sunset.


At a little after six, Pia, Karen and I parted ways, exchanging numbers and email (for the pictures, of course). They were going to have dinner in this superb Indian place, True Food, which they couldn’t when the others, who were on a tight budget, were still around. I was going to head back to check out my group whom I had inadvertently abandoned for the afternoon.

Walking back to the hotel, I had to remind myself that I was already actually in Boracay. A breeze was blowing from the ocean, and in the darkening silhouettes against the beach, I thought about how quickly the afternoon had sped by. While it was still difficult to shake off the stresses and issues of Manila (and because I was still rather drowsy from having only two hours of sleep), the comfortable sound of the waves prodded me to put a little bit more effort into entering the Boracay state of mind. Resistance would be futile.


Viva la Mañana

After taking a shower, I met Paolo, Kristine and Jason on the beach, and made another trek back to Station Two. The crowd was still thin, I observed; perhaps more people would fill the restaurants once the long weekend began. Already, while walking, I could see those exquisite Boracay sandcastles, now lighted by improvised kerosene lamps, reigning over the now emptying beach.

We settled on a Mexican restaurant, Mañana. The prices were rather steep, but then, Kristine explained that they were typical tourist prices in a place like Boracay. I ordered a very cold beer, and heartily ate my chicken burrito combo.

After dinner, because Jason was still jetlagged, and I having had only two hours of sleep, the group decided to just make a quick survey of Station Two, down towards the Boracay Regency. Kristine would once and a while point out interesting restaurants to eat at, or places which we might want to visit: Hey Jude, D’Mall, Aria, Wave, among others.

We got back to the hotel at around eleven o’clock, passing the noisy Pier One and Cocomanga’s on our walk back. Tomorrow, I told myself. Today, I’m just too tired. Jona’s, apparently open for twenty-four hours, still had some patrons lounging on the chairs out on the beach, sipping shakes.

I entered my room, and felt dead tired. The day seemed to pass like a blur, lightheaded as I was from lack of sleep. Was I really in Boracay? Seemed like it. After performing my evening rituals, I plopped onto my bed, and in no time, I was fast asleep.


DAY TWO [November 25]: Getting into the Groove

Chicken in a whole new light

My second day in Boracay was filled with rather ordinary activities one would expect to do on any beach: sunbathing, snorkeling, getting drunk. But being in Boracay, they took on an added novelty.

The day began early for me. I got up at around nine thirty, and had my complimentary breakfast on the beach. Already in my beach clothes after leaving the room, I opted to begin my campaign to give my skin a little color, and so laid down on the white beach chairs in front of our hotel, put on the IPod, and let the sun do its business. Paolo, Kristine and Jason by this time had already been roused back to life and were lounging on the beach with me. Kristine was buying some bracelets from the local children, while Paolo was making arrangements with some locals from the talipapa for our seafood dinner later that evening.

After about an hour, I decided to cool off in the water before going out for lunch. Sitting in the shallows alone, I let the waves gently lap against my body, thinking how small I saw amidst the vastness of the ocean. Yet still, I felt strangely safe and comfortable, like the embrace of an old friend. It was too long since I’ve been back on a beach, I thought, and it was good to just drift. To just drift.

Lunch came soon enough, and wanting to save a few pesos following last night’s rather expensive dinner, we opted for a budget meal at Andok’s lechon manok, at D’Mall. I tell you, you will never look at Andok’s the same way again after having it in Boracay, following a restful morning on the beach, washed down with a cold, cold glass of Coke.


An Afternoon in the Water

After briskly walking back to the hotel, we gathered our towels and headed off into a rented boat for an afternoon of snorkeling. While reminding me much of our Puerto Galera vacation some years back, the boat ride was more choppy because the waves around the island were much larger and more persistent. Putting on our life vests, and choosing our rented snorkels, the boatmen brought us to a spot just off the Boracay pier, past the rocky crags I had seen going in on the ferry from Caticlan, in the Tabon Strait, within sight of Crocodile Island. The waves there were rough and frequent, but the boatmen said that it was safe.

I was reluctant to get into the water, at first, because I figured that at would be chilly. The sun had been covered by heavy clouds all afternoon, and a cold wind blew from the Sibuyan Sea. Eventually, however, I jumped in.


After about thirty minutes, as the waves were getting fiercer, we left for a snorkeling site much closer to the beach, with friendlier waters. We were brought to a spot just off the southern part of White Beach, to an area specially cordoned off for snorkelers. Already, there were two other boats anchored in the area sharing the site with us. From where we swam, we had a good view of the entire beach, and the waters were just right for swimming.


We spent a good hour there, admiring the nearly gray corals under some thirty feet of water. There were some clown fish, angel fishes; Kristine even claimed to have seen a large tuna. I was just happy bobbing up and down on the sea, watching as the clouds went by.

Not satisfied with the experience, we asked that we be taken to another spot on the northern end of the island, and so, gladly obliging, the boatmen sped the length of White Beach, past Club Panoly and Nami Beach Resorts, to a place just off Punta Bunga. We dropped anchor beside a huge rock, and looked on as half-naked women frolicked unsuspectingly on the private coves tucked away behind dense foliage.

We spent some minutes there, living in the moment, as the sun slowly met the horizon.

The boatmen then suggested that we hit land before the sun fully set, and that it would be best to enjoy the dusk on one of the smaller beaches not far from where we were anchored. The beach they had in mind was called Diniwid, just behind the curve of rock which separated it from White Beach. I was happy with the suggestion, having gotten a bit seasick from all the rocking of the waves— being on land, I thought, was a good thing. It was, as it turned out, a pretty good place to watch the sunset.


Upon arriving, Kristine had quickly plopped down on the sand and took a nap. Paolo went off taking pictures, and Jason stood by the water, throwing stones. I sat on the beach, put on the IPod and disengaged.


The sun was already slipping under the horizon when we arrived back on the beach fronting our hotel. I waded back onto the shore, feeling slightly hungry, looking forward to our seafood feast that evening. I parked myself on one of the beach chairs, feeling tired for the first time from the activities of the afternoon. I rested my feet on the chair and was immediately lulled into the timelessness of the moment, as sea and sky played tricks on the eye. I saw children playing in the sand by the water, their shadows dark against the darkening sky.


Nocturnal amusements

I think I dozed off for a couple of minutes, because when I woke up, Paolo and Kristine were already preparing our little bungalow for our seafood dinner. I ran to my room to take a quick shower, and to prepare for the evening’s activities. I went back to the beach and found our table set with two plates full of tiger prawns and a king crab broken into little pieces. Indeed, the expectation was well worth it, as the food did not disappoint.

At around nine o’clock, at a time when we could barely move from our seats, Kristine proposed that we get on with the evening’s festivities. Because it was still rather early, she proposed that we go to Wave first, which was right beside the Boracay Regency, and have a couple of beers there, before hitting the drinks hard at Cocomanga’s.

Needless to say— and because what happens in Boracay stays in Boracay— some of us got plastered. But some more than others.


DAY THREE [November 26]: Sunny Day, Rainy Afternoon

Colleagues on the Beach

As would be expected, the morning began pretty late for me, but strangely, without a hang-over. Cheeky had sent me a text message the night before, telling me that they would be on the island on the 9 a.m. flight from Manila. I sent her a message asking what their plans were for the morning. She replies, she and Ice’s family are just having breakfast. We planned to meet sometime during lunch.

After having my complimentary breakfast by the beach, I resumed my project to give-Peej-some-color. It did not take long before I felt parched and dehydrated, opting again to finish my session with a dip in the ocean. Sensing that it was about noontime, the heat beating hard against my back, I got out of the water, took a shower, and prepared to meet Cheeky and Ice at their hotel, the Boracay Regency. Not seeing any of my travel buddies, I figured that they were still asleep. (We had planned to go around the island by tricycle by eleven that morning, but sensing the condition of our going home the night before, I wasn’t surprised that the schedule was pushed back a couple of hours.)

I met Cheeky and Ice outside the swanky Boracay Regency. I was really glad to see my favorite seatmate and good friend, whom I would be working with come the beginning of January. Wearing her bikini top beneath her beach shirt, I encouraged her to take it off and get into the proper Bora attire. She, insanely insecure about her body, said that she would have to work the courage sometime during the day. It was an unfounded insecurity.

As expected, we found ourselves walking towards Jona’s for a shake. Getting there, we each ordered a shake and got right into calling Tinggay, a classmate of ours who was at the firm working, hoping to make her envious. I said, “Grabe, Tinggay, ang sarap ng ice tea shake, right on the beach, with the wind in my hair and the sun on my face. Eh, ikaw, ano nga uli ang ginagawa mo?

Gumagawa ng opinion, bakit? Well, pupunta naman kami diyan sa December 1,” she said defensively. The firm was treating everyone to an all-expense paid Boracay trip, with an option to bring one companion, free. “At, hoy, at least, when I go there, kasama ko boyfriend ko. Ikaw, sino kasama mo?” She laughed heartily. I feigned wounded feelings.

“Colleague, wala akong nasabi do’n, a,” I said. “Grabe, fine, fine. Pick on me! O, eto si Cheeky. Sana mag-usap kayo nang matino.

Paolo then sent me a message, saying that they had scheduled our day trip around the island at one o’clock, and whether I wanted to go. For a moment, I was tempted on staying, but I thought, Ice and Cheeky might appreciate being alone together for the afternoon. I replied yes, and told them to wait for me.

Some twenty minutes passing, after a lot of laughs and blank stabs at Ice’s present predicament with Cheeky, I left telling them to expect a text message from me for the evening’s activities. It was a good lunch, I thought, even if we only did have fruit shakes. Feeling so good, in fact, was I that I remember that it was on that walk back to the hotel from Jona’s, with the sun not too hot against my skin, and the sky the bluest I had ever seen, that I knew that I really was in Boracay, at last.


Never Saw Blue Like That

I put on the IPod carefully snuggled in my camera bag, and for some strange reason, found myself listening to John Mayer’s Love Song for No One. His introduction to the acoustic version touched off the musical high:

This is a song about, uh, talking to the person that you haven’t even met yet. And, uh, maybe they’re rolling around the hay with someone else but. . . but not as good as you’ll be.

It’s just got a way to turn. She’s out there. He’s out there. They’re just learning what to contrast you against.

Indeed, perhaps it was because of the youthful defiance of his lyrics, or the upbeat rhythm of his guitar that I found myself singing out loud, with a big smile on my face, and giddy, for the first time in a very long time, that life had finally begun. A strange optimism tided over me like a blanket, that I felt that anything was possible, that happiness was actually just over the horizon.

I’m tired of being alone,
So hurry up and get here.

I sang, like an idiot on the beach. I was then reminded of the lyrics of one of Hale’s better songs which I thought quite captured the moment:

The sun is sure to shine
For you and me for everyone
So don't be sad it's just the start
Of a new beginning in your life

Coz there's a blue sky waiting tomorrow
Waiting tomorrow
shining and shimmering
A blue sky waiting tomorrow
Waiting tomorrow
Maybe it's all we need


With a hop and skip, I met Paolo, Kristine and Jason waiting by the beach-side entrance of our hotel. We promptly crossed over to the rear of the hotel where a tricycle was waiting on the road. They weren’t like the tricycles in Manila which had a sidecar which could fit only two more people; the Boracay tricycles, I observed, had seats both facing forward, beside the driver, and behind, with two rows facing each other. We picked our seats, and we were off.

Mount Luho

Our first stop, after a bumpy ride which at some point we had to take on foot, was Mt. Luho, the highest point on the island. Climbing the observation deck, I could see not only White Beach, but also the Bluewater Golf Club and the Bulabog Beach, which was opposite White Beach, landward. It was on the deck, I think, that the tourist in me came out most (if it hadn’t already, while on the beach). With my camera in hand, I couldn’t stop taking pictures, first of the views, and then, with myself and my friends in them. Needless to say, the scenery was magnificent.




Unexpected Cockfight

We got into the tricycle again, backing up where we had passed, and through the same bumpy road, uncemented at times, we were brought to a muddy clearing where a cockfight was being held. Under trees of Narra, locals huddled two deep around a pen, probably eight meters square, while bookies stood in the middle taking bets for the round. Owners of fighting cocks circled anxiously around the pen, gently caressing their prized-fighters, attaching talons to their feet. It was a pretty interesting experience, a proper subject for an extended aricle, I thought, or perhaps even a photo essay.






Puka Beach

We spent a full hour at the cockpit, giving our American friend, Jason, more time to take in what certainly was something that he would probably never encounter anywhere else. Muddied sandals dirtied the tricycle floor, as we sped off to Puka Beach, ten minutes away. The beach, of course, was made famous by the shells bearing the same name, so popular in the seventies as part of the proper hippie fashions.





The 800-meter beach was virtually deserted when we arrived, and I thought it to be a perfect place for a sunset picnic when I came back. The wind blew strong from the north, inland, and over in the distance, we could see the islands Romblon. Naturally, we took plenty of pictures.



We stayed some time on the beach, savoring the cool sea breeze and the strong surf. The absence of people was a charming change from the bustle that was beginning to be White Beach, as the weekend fast approached.

Manoc-Manoc

Because we were getting rather hungry, not having had lunch earlier, we asked the driver to take us where we could buy some quick food to tide us over until dinner. We were brought to a town called Manoc-Manoc, which had, at the end of the main road, its own beach which the locals say is best for windsurfing. We lingered in the town, watching the people, some playing billiards, others playing basketball, others lounging around amused, perhaps, at Jason’s strange skin and blue eyes. The children were particularly friendly, posing for our cameras with the gusto of screen child-stars.




Umuulan ba na naman?

We headed back to White Beach at nearly five thirty in the afternoon, and it was then that it began to rain. Already, while in Manoc-Manoc, the sky showed shades of heavy gray, and the wind began to get chilly. It was a strange experience, actually, sitting in that tricycle, drowsy from the drone of the engine, one hand gripping the bar above my head to stop me from falling, playing Everything but the Girl on the IPod, and watching the rain drip from the edge of the tricycle roof. A sort of melancholy descended over me. It was not over anything in particular, no one memory, person or event; just an overwhelming feeling of nostalgia I couldn’t quite shake off.

Sitting in the tricycle, barely sheltered from the rain, I was reminded of one of Jimmy Bondoc’s songs from the play Boracay, which he wrote while still in Dulaang Sibol, a couple of months before graduating from high school. He explains the song’s meaning this way: imagine being in Boracay, all excited and looking forward to the day, and all of a sudden, it rains. It was both a rain that was both physical and metaphorical, of course, and sitting there in the tricycle, I somewhat understood what he meant. Some of the lyrics go:

Umuula ba na naman?
Lumuluhang langit ay pagmasdan.
Ang gabi’y wala buwan.

Gabi na, lumipas na ang araw.
Gabi na, ang kahapon ay pumanaw.

Ang kanina ay kahapon, lumaon.
Ang kanina mo’y inalagaan o tinapon
Ang kanina’y wala na.
Gabi na.

Umuula ba na naman?
Lumuluhang langit ay pagmasdan.
Ang gabi’y wala buwan.

Gabi na, lumipas na ang araw.
Gabi na, ang kahapon ay pumanaw.

Paano man pagkaingatan o iwasan
Laging may aalis at may maiiwan

It was in that perfectly melancholic moment that I found myself out on the sand again in front of our hotel following the tricycle ride, watching as another day drew to a close. It was then that I remembered a special request a friend had asked: “Please promise me you’ll listen to the song Kissing on one sunset. . . . you’ll understand why.” So I fished the IPod from my camera bag, and dutifully searched for the song, pressed play, and listened.

The red light of the sun,
Slowly descending
The sky is all I see,
It’s never ending

We could fly, you and I
On the clouds, kissing, kissing

The wind plays with the leaves
The weather turns colder
But as long as we believe
Love doesn’t get older

We could fly, you and I
On the clouds, kissing, kissing

On a journey of the heart
There’s so much to see
And when the sky is dark
You’ll be right here
Right here with me
Right here with me
Kissing, Kissing

I had to agree, it was a perfect sunset song.

Just then, I spotted a couple crossing the beach, by the edge of the water. I had to snap a picture; it turned out to be one of my favorite shots of the trip:

Too much of a good thing

That evening, we opted for another cheap dinner at Andok’s in D’Mall. I don’t know whether it was the tiredness of the day’s activities, the lethargy of the Boracay mentality, or the rain that poured in the afternoon, but we ate somberly, once and while commenting on the people that walked up and down the path beside our table. We planned to spend a quiet evening, in contrast to the loud, rocking noise that defined the previous night. I sent a message to Cheeky that we would be at Hey Jude in a couple of minutes, and I invited them to follow.

After dinner, we took a walk from D’Mall to the beach, and took pictures of more of those castles that mysteriously grew from the sand come sundown. I learned later on that the same meticulously built sandcastles would be demolished by evening’s end, only to be rebuilt again the next day: it was a way to ensure that donations from tourists be collected only when the castles were still standing.

We settled into Hey Jude moments later, ordering Vodka Sprites and Bailey’s Mixers. The easy house music drifted through the bar, and added to the indolence we were feeling. It was one of the more classy bars on White Beach, I found, patronized by the more fashionably conscious of beach-goers. At some point, Cindy Curleto even swung by and sat by the bar, much to our star-struck delight. Nothing like cheap thrills.

Cheeky, Ice and his sister arrived a little after eleven, and we were momentarily joined by Edcel Tupaz, who was there with his father, attending the annual convention of Law Deans in the Philippines. Even the Dean of our law school was on the island, he said. Everyone, it seemed, was taking advantage of the long weekend.

We stayed on until an hour past midnight.

Heading back to the hotel, we all took our separate ways, I, finding myself walking alone by the edge of the water. It was a soothing evening, I found, and I enjoyed the gentle sound of the lapping of the waves and the soft comforting sand under my feet. The semi-darkness only added to the reminiscences that did not quite fully descend, and while I could hear the muffled rhythmic beating of the music from the bars on the opposite side of the beach fronting the water, the wistfulness of the moment was much more potent to be drowned away.

Looking out onto the ocean, black now under a starless sky, I did not know whether it was the rain, the sunsets, or the alcohol, but I found myself missing people. And that was the sweetest of all nostalgias.


DAY FOUR [November 27]: Me-Time

We set aside Sunday as a day of rest. We did not plan any activities; sleeping-in seemed to be a real option. I had announced the night before that I would be taking some time off with myself, and that I would just meet up with them come dinner time.

I was woken early by an ubiquitous text message at six-forty in the morning, and could no longer get back to sleep; and so, deciding that it was too good a day to spend in bed, I got up and, after breakfast, took in more of the sun and the water. Our side of the beach was, as it had always been, almost deserted, and I felt that I had the entire beach to myself. After about an hour and a half of bathing both in sun and sea, I went back to my room, took a long shower, and turned on the TV while getting dressed for the day. The Simpsons was on, and then Whose Line Is It Anyway, followed by Desperate Housewives, and Malcolm in the Middle. Never have I taken so long putting on a shirt.


Picture Orgy

Feeling hunger— I figured that it was about two in the afternoon already— I headed towards Station Two, thinking of having some good pasta at Aria, which I had noted on the numerous times I had passed it. Reaching the restaurant, however, I found the prices to be too steep for my tastes: a pomodoro costed around three hundred pesos. Not wanting to withdraw money from the nearby ATM, I settled on lunch at BiteClub at D’Mall. I sat in the open air, put on the IPod, and watched as people milled about around me. I felt good feeling anonymous.

Figuring that it was probably the only chance I had to walk the entire strip of White Beach before I went back to Manila, I ventured south, past the restaurants and resorts of Station Two, past rows of Europeans tanning on the sand, past the talipapa and the rows of dive shops and budget resorts of Station Three, finding myself at last at the end of White Beach, terminating in rock formations jutting out from the shallow sea.

Naturally, the entire walk was a photo-trip, or, as Jason would put it: a photo-orgy. So engrossed was I in taking photographs, that I did not notice that it was nearly four in the afternoon— time of the second, and last Mass for the day. And so, I left the beach quickly, trying to find a path which connected to the inland road, hoping to find a ride. Following a couple of cues from the locals, I found my objective, right behind the Station Three docking port, and quickly jumped into the next tricycle then waiting.


Advent in Boracay

The church was on the main highway, a simple steel structure with unenameled walls and a corrugated steel roof. The Mass was in English, and the priest spoke about advent, and being prepared. I stood by the door, leaning against the filigreed gate off to the left of the altar, because the church was filled, both of locals, and holidaymakers fulfilling their Sunday obligations. The Mass ended some twenty minutes past five, and having said my final prayers, I followed the crowd and spilled out into the courtyard of the church. I met Edcel with his parents, who graciously offered me a ride back to Station One. I declined, saying that the walk was probably good for me. I soon enough found out that the walk was almost even unnecessary, because getting back onto the beach, the church was only a leisurely five minute walk to our hotel.

The sky, I observed, was gray again, and I knew that it would soon again rain. This notwithstanding, I decided to go ahead and get that massage on the beach I had planning since I arrived on the island. Because Jason had been indulging himself with massages over the past three days, he suggested that I get mine at the SeaWind resort next door. I followed his advice, and after asking for a masseuse, quickly plopped down on one of the beach chairs neatly laid down in rows on the sand.

I watched my last Boracay sunset on my stomach— which wasn’t such a bad thing.


While finishing up with my massage, gooey from all the coconut oil on my skin, I received a text message from Edcel, telling me that they were at Nigi, enjoying happy hour. I told them I would try to follow. I rushed back to the hotel room, and stayed quite a while in the shower washing off all the coconut oil. I realized that my body started to ache from the impact of the afternoon’s massage.


Last Supper

The evening went by in a blur, with our last dinner back at Mañana, but this time, with a new friend, Yukka, whom Paolo and Kristine had met while having an afternoon drink at Hey Jude. He was from Finland, a computer engineer, taking a year-long vacation to travel around the world. He had been to Nepal before going to the Philippines, and had been on the island for the last two weeks. He was to depart the next day for Palawan, and then Sagada, rounding off his trip with a couple of days in Manila, before finally flying to Cambodia. I listened to Yukka, who spoke perfect although accented English, and thought it somewhat surreal that people actually took one year vacations to travel the world, without much more than a sense of adventure, and a pack of clothes on their backs.

It started to rain.

After dinner, we drifted towards Hey Jude once again, outside on the sand, barely sheltered from the rain. The crowd was much thinner, and the other stores were closing much earlier than on the previous nights. Boracay slept on Sunday, I thought. I ordered a couple of Bailey’s shakes, and the others chose beers and Vodka Sprites. Rain had prevented Cheeky and Ice from following, and our spirits were somewhat dampened too by the fact that we spent our last night on the island under a mild downpour. Nonetheless, the drinks and the conversation flowed freely. Kristine had, quite unwittingly, found herself hostage by the bar, offered drinks of every sort and color by the bar tenders free of charge. It was not difficult to see, at that point, that at least one of us was going home drunk that night.


DAY FIVE [November 28]: Parting Shots

Encroachments

I woke up knowing that it was my last day in Boracay. Perhaps it was the feeling that everyone got when something good was about to end, with reality and time slowly creeping into this self-chosen retreat. The giddy expectation I found at the start of every morning was replaced by a sense of urgency, that I had still stuff to do before leaving: confirming my flight out, packing my clothes, buying pasalubong. I got my watch from the room safe, found that it had stopped, shook it back to life, and adjusted the time. I put my cellphone in the left pocket of my camera bag, and the IPod in the other.

Wanting to get as many things done before lunch, I got out of bed and began packing my bag. After my last breakfast, I confirmed my Air Philippines flight, inquiring about transfers from the island to the airport. I had to be leaving by 2:15 that afternoon, to catch my 3:30 flight home. A ferry, they said, regularly crossed the channel, but it was good to leave early.

I took a tricycle to the talipapa, getting down at the same place I had found a tricycle to the church the day before. I browsed the stalls for sarongs and necklaces to bring back to Manila, haggling for a better price. I eventually found what I had been looking for, and, wanting to get the transaction over with, bought everything in bulk.

Satisfied that I was able to buy my pasalubongs on my own, at a reasonable price, I headed back to the hotel. It was then that I realized that my cell phone was no longer in the pocket of my camera bag. I stopped, searched for it in the pockets of my boardshorts, and even inside my camera bag. It was not there. I paused and made certain that I did not leave it in the hotel room. No, I did not, I told myself. It was then that it dawned on me that my phone had been stolen!

My heart jumped a moment, when I remembered that I had placed the IPod on the other pocket, and quickly felt for its presence. Thankfully, it was there. Good thing, I thought, or I wouldn’t be able to forgive myself (or she, me, for that matter). I fished it out from the pocket, and placed it snuggly into my camera bag, keeping it close. I rushed back to the hotel, intending to have the phone line suspended, and while I was on the tricycle, I was momentarily annoyed by what had happened. I had left my camera bag on the beach so many times; it had lulled me into the false idea that in paradise, everything was perfect. Apparently, it was not. It was a rude awakening from the Boracay state of mind.

Reaching the hotel, I went to Paolo’s room, told him what had happened, borrowed his cell phone, and called home to ask to have my line suspended. For five minutes, I was pissed. It was the first time that anything had been stolen from me, and I felt powerless to retrieve what I had lost. But then, I told myself, I did not want that to ruin my great vacation. And then I was no longer pissed.


Temptations

I lounged in Paolo and Kristine’s room for a couple more minutes, feeling lethargic from the heat of the morning’s shopping. Kristine was still wrapped under blankets, nursing a hangover, without any indication of wanting to get up from bed, much less move. Paolo, ever the fussy boyfriend, was busy packing their bags. It was such a domestic scene, I thought, and I wondered, were things only this simple. It looked like they knew what they were doing.

I went back to my room moments later, and finished packing my things. It was nearly one o’clock, and I wanted to grab some lunch before leaving. Since Jason was having another massage, and Kristine still sedated, I asked Paolo to go with me for a quick lunch. We walked over to the Andok’s behind Jona’s, across the road, and joked about extending our trip.

I honestly could, I told Paolo, because I had nothing to do. In fact, that really was the contingency, had I flown with Philippine Airlines which had a booking for a return flight only on the next day. Alone in Boracay, I thought, there was a quotidian romance to it, something not alien to me but novel at the same time. But my mind was already programmed to leave mid-afternoon.

We crossed the street and went to Jona’s for one last shake, with Kristine requesting for a take away. While walking back to the hotel, Edcel called out to me from the terrace of Waling-Waling, a beer in hand, saying, Peej, have a beer.

I told him that I had a flight in a couple of hours. They were leaving the next day.

Why don’t you just extend, he suggested. It’s not that difficult to find a place, and re-book a flight. It was seconded by some girl in a bikini beside him. For a moment, I seriously considered it. But I eventually declined, telling myself: I’m going back here. Something to look forward to.

Walking back finally to the hotel with Paolo, I told him, grabe, ganito pala sa Boracay: hindi pa ako nakaka-alis, I’m already thinking of what I’m going to do when I get back.

Paolo replies: well, that’s Boracay for you. I remembered a text message that a friend sent me the night before: Now you know what true love feels like. It’s what you feel when you’re in Boracay.

Not quite, I thought. But maybe it comes close.

I left quietly, leaving Paolo, Kristine and Jason to their own devises. I boarded the hotel shuttle to the Station Two boat port, and, with my bags— now bulging from the pasalubong I bought— I boarded the ferry back to the Caticlan, taking a parting shot of the island.


The five days had passed so quickly, I thought, and I decided: it was one of the best and more restful vacations I had ever had.

I reached the airport without much hassle, and after checking-in my bag, I waited at the pre-departure area, listening to the IPod, and looking out the large, glass-paneled windows onto the run-way, with nary a thought in my head. The same mental vacuity punctuated the plane ride home, in a turboprop plane, much larger than what I had ridden on the way to the Island.

I sat next to the plane’s emergency exit, the flight stewardess asking me whether I was prepared to assist in the evacuation of the aircraft in case of an emergency landing. What a comforting thought, I told myself, as I eased into my seat, and quickly lost myself in the drone of the propellers and the music from the IPod, somewhat impatient to get home. It turned out to be an hour-long flight, longer than the journey out to the island.

I do not remember much about what happened during the flight back to Manila, or landing at the airport an hour later, or being picked up by my mom at the airport, because there was no longer any reason to remember. It was back to reality for me, I thought: back to the pressures of the rest of my life, and striving to be happy. But I wanted to prolong the opiate a little longer, and entering my room after five days and four nights away, I found that the only thought in my head was: the best thing about going away was coming home.

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